I'm a Woman Phenomenally. Phenomenal Woman, Thats me. - Maya Angelou
Being comfortable in your skin, is truly difficult.
The other night I was watching a movie and thought, ' How does this actress completely commit to her character she is playing. She usually plays all these serious parts in movies, and this movie is WAY out of her comfort level, I later was watching an interview and she admitted it was hard for her to totally accept her faces she was making, not wearing makeup, and over-exaggerent expressions, She then later admitted it took her a year to actually go back and watch the movie that she acted in.'
Which is funny because I literally sat there thinking, why in the world am I not comfortable with everything I do in my own skin? This blog has been challenging because I sit on here and then start to look at all these other bloggers and women that I look up too for inspiration, and am so proud of and want to be like, then I start comparing myself to them. Wondering why my life isn't like their life. It's crazy because doing that can eat you up, it can hold you back from doing anything/everything. To be honest, Opening my store, Geez... talk about fast learning. You think things are way easier than they are, but I learned quickly that you have to truly know yourself and who you are to reflect a style or yourself into something. There is a little bit of conflict in the area that I opened my store in. Its weird, I always thought in the saying "don't hate, collaborate." I get that everyone is in competition mode, which trust me, I love to win.. but there was a time, where I felt at my lowest and not good enough, people talking about my store not being as good as another, and honestly those little opinions of others, can slowly get into your head and they can consume you, take over your body and mind and make you feel as if you should just give up and throw the towel in, but- then I remembered, about my faith as a christian, my faith in myself, and a poem, 'Phenomenal Women', that my therapist made me memorize along time ago, I attached it below for you to read. -- I am going to try to make this blog, about real things, about the non perfect moments, the real life struggles all of us go through on the daily. I want each women to stop comparing themselves to each other and to stop letting that little bit of doubt that you have in your head telling you, "you can't" I want it to finally change into "You can." Noone, NOONE can do you better, than yourself. Wake up in the morning, and put makeup on for you. Dress up, For you. Do everything for you. You will finally truly start to feel better about yourself, I have. I do it for me, I also take some days like today and have on old sweats I've had since I was 18, and my hair hasn't been brushed-- Yeah, I'm a hot mess but I did it because I wanted to be lazy today.
GIRL, YOU GOT THIS. YOU ARE PHENOMENAL.
"Pretty women wonder where my secret lies. I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size But when I start to tell them, They think I’m telling lies. I say, It’s in the reach of my arms, The span of my hips, The stride of my step, The curl of my lips. I’m a woman Phenomenally. Phenomenal woman, That’s me. I walk into a room Just as cool as you please, And to a man, The fellows stand or Fall down on their knees. Then they swarm around me, A hive of honey bees. I say, It’s the fire in my eyes, And the flash of my teeth, The swing in my waist, And the joy in my feet. I’m a woman Phenomenally. Phenomenal woman, That’s me. Men themselves have wondered What they see in me. They try so much But they can’t touch My inner mystery. When I try to show them, They say they still can’t see. I say, It’s in the arch of my back, The sun of my smile, The ride of my breasts, The grace of my style. I’m a woman Phenomenally. Phenomenal woman, That’s me. Now you understand Just why my head’s not bowed. I don’t shout or jump about Or have to talk real loud. When you see me passing, It ought to make you proud. I say, It’s in the click of my heels, The bend of my hair, the palm of my hand, The need for my care. ’Cause I’m a woman Phenomenally. Phenomenal woman, That’s me."
All Images were taken by the talented: Adina Brown-Selner